Try to kill anything called hope in you. You never want to put yourself in a situation where you wish very badly for something *specific* to happen to you, an event that would tomorrow suddenly make a big difference for the rest of your life.
—(Say, the outcome of a job interview or a lawsuit, a battle, winning the lotto, meeting a significant other, getting a paper accepted, have gold rise, have your employer go public, or other events that can markedly change your life.) If one event, a single event makes a difference, *and* it doesn’t depend on you, then you are megafragile, a prisoner of circumstances.
—This is not to say that no good event can make a difference to you, rather that you do not *need* to dream about it. For the alternative should be acceptable enough for you. The outcome of the battle is not what matters, but how *you* fight; for that you do not need to hope and dream like a loser.
—Likewise if you end up losing a lawsuit or something of the sort, show off how honorable you are in handling defeat.
So, simply, get organized in a way to not have to dream tomorrow or the day after. It takes a while, a lot of work, and the certainty that the counterfactual is equally good for you.